Monday: Mexican chicken skillet
Tuesday: taco salad
Wednesday: church supper
Thursday: leftovers
Friday: pizza and a salad
Saturday: chicken fajitas
Sunday: something simple-very simple

This blog chronicles the life of the Brooks family, a family of five living in North Carolina.
I should go back a little now and tell explain that by the time these two children came to live with us, we already had our daughter-dd8. She was three at the time. My husband and I were both 24. (The girl was 2 and the boy was 14 months old.) Neither of us had ever dealt with the Department of Social Services, nor were we prepared for any other children. Sure, we had discussed becoming foster parents and how there were so many children who needed people to care about them, but we figured that would be YEARS down the road—like when our daughter was grown!
…..Ok, so after the children came to live with us, I took a day off of work to get them settled. Our daughter had a great daycare that she went to and it was also where we wanted these two children to go to because the staff were so good to our daughter and our family and they knew us—not to mention I could not add another stop to my morning commute because of time. After all the odds and ends were taken care of, we tried to go back to our daily routine—with two extra kids and a new apartment! When the kids came to live with us they had very little in the way of belongings. Most of what they did have had been purchased while they had been living with the other family member. Their car seats were atrocious! I was terrified to put them in my car—the straps were loose and could not be adjusted at all. We live in such a rural area we could not go right then and replace them-nor did we have the money to. At the time I was fortunate to work in a wonderful school full of compassionate people. They threw me a baby shower and provided lots of clothes, diapers, gift cards, and lots of other things that we needed. We used the gift cards that week to purchase the new car seats and immediately threw the other ones away!!
The day we replaced the car seats we dressed the children in a new outfit and headed out the door—we thought. The little girl got mad about something—I don’t remember what. The next thing we knew she flung herself backwards and started doing a variation of the crab walk with her hair sweeping the floor of the porch! Wow! I had never seen such a fit. I picked her up and put her into her crib. I told her she wasn’t coming out until she calmed down. I sat down with her and waited….About ten minutes later we immerged, ready to get into the car. Little did we know that was just the beginning of the “fits”…
I am just really not sure how many parts this story will be yet…I guess til I have it told . I really feel like by telling our story maybe we will be helping someone else.
I will never forget that day as long as I live. It was a Wednesday. At the school I was working at the secretary called on the intercom and told me I had a phone call. I told her I didn’t have any other adults in the room at the time and couldn’t go to the phone. She said it was about my niece and nephew. My heart pounded and I really didn’t know what to think. I found someone to cover my class for a few minutes and walked down the hall to the workroom, bewildered. The social worker told me that they needed my husband and I to take temporary custody of our niece and nephew (and told me a little of why they needed us to take them). I told her that we were actually looking at an apartment that week (thank you God!) but that we couldn’t take them til we moved in. We had been living with my parents for a few months because our rental house had been sold…Long story short, she was at school in less than an hour with the temporary custody papers signed by the mother. Wow! (Of course during this time, I had also been on the phone with my husband and his family in the town where we live.) You see, our niece and nephew that came to live with us also have two older brothers and an older sister. They went to live with my husband’s parents. I won’t be discussing them very much in this story.
It happened so fast! I got the call on Wednesday, we looked at and started moving into the apartment on Friday, moved more stuff Saturday, moved more stuff Sunday and picked the kids up in the county where I was employed on Sunday afternoon. (At this time, I worked in one county and lived in another. The kids had been living in the county where I worked, not where we lived.) We really had not seen these two children much since they were born. We really didn’t know them. I know it sounds strange because we were their aunt and uncle, but it is true. The day we picked them up (they were living with another family member until we picked them up) the little boy came right to us, but the little girl was very hesitant. She knew she didn’t know us!!!
Well, we had brought friends with us to help us move the children’s belongings, and they were such a blessing! They had been helping us move and helped us unload everything at the apartment when we brought the kids home. They helped us keep them entertained and helped us make sure everyone got fed that night. I will never forget when my husband said he was going to the car (to get another load of belongings) and the little girl thought he was leaving. She dropped her food and ran after him screaming and crying, “Daddy! Don’t go!” Keep in mind this was a child that just a few hours before did not even know us…
Wow, what I have been learning about in James this week really hits home—the tongue. We all have one but James is not necessarily just talking about a tongue; he is talking about what you say—the words that roll off that tongue. Are they Godly words or are they sharp, sarcastic words? I am afraid that too often-especially if I feel stressed-the words that roll off MY tongue are not helpful to anyone. It is definitely an area that I need to spend some time working on and praying about. I can act Godly, read my Bible, be around Godly people, and call myself a Christian, but if what I say doesn’t match what I do or what I profess to be then what kind of example am I showing the world? What about the lost? Are they going to say, “man, I really want what she has! I really want Jesus. Tell me about Him!!” No, the answer is no they are not. The little tongue can cause so many BIG problems. Gossip…angry words…slander…belittling…sarcasm…I don’t see anything useful so far in this short list. As Christians—LET’S SHOW GOD OFF!!!
This is linked to Women In the Word Wednesdays @ goodmorninggirls.org
Well, except for Sunday Morning Thoughts and a menu plan I have been kinda MIA around the blogosphere. I really like it here, but the real world of being a married single parent keeps calling my name. Sometimes it gets a little overwhelming! I have a newfound admiration for single parents who do it all the time or for longer stretches than I am going to do it.
Anyhoo…here is what has been going on in the Brooks household for the past few days…chores, Netflix, an impromptu trip to the new playground down the road with Nana and Papaw and cousins, more Netflix, a trip to the shoe store for dd7 and ds6, school, homework, more chores, writing letters, phone calls from my husband…oh yeah—almost forgot the furnace trouble. Yes, my husband goes out of town and we run out of fuel for our furnace!!! Until Friday I had NEVER dealt with the oil company except to pay our bill one time several years ago. My husband usually orders fuel, pays for it, and calls the repair man if we need maintenance. Not this time…the repair man left a few hours ago. It is so nice to know that you have heat even when it is a little warmer outside than usual. Until today the Edenpure and a couple space heaters filled in. They are just right in cool weather—not COLD weather!
I had always considered myself a fairly independent gal, but now I am understanding the meaning of independent! I guess during this next few months there will be lots more life experiences that I have never had besides dealing with the oil company!!
Happy President’s Day!!
This is going to be yet another crazy week, but hopefully I will get to eat a home as much as possible. I apparently threw my “let’s save money and eat more at home” plan out the window this weekend because it didn’t happen. I guess I got bitten by the pretty Spring-like weather bug!
Here is the plan for this week:
Monday: eat with my parents
Tuesday: chicken fajitas
Wednesday: spaghetti or lasagna with garlic bread
Thursday: eat out—long night at work again!
Friday: pizza night
Saturday: eat out with family
Sunday: something really easy and quick—probably leftovers
The Lord is Almighty, able to take the bad or the painful and use it for good, for His will. Through Him, we are stronger than we ever thought we could or would be.